Working Moms Need Help
I wrote a blog post on Working Mom’s Against Guilt that I titled When You’re Too Task Oriented. I was inspired to write it one day after realizing, something’s gotta give in life. Working moms need help and that’s okay to admit. We can’t do it all or be everything to everyone. The stress of working full-time, keeping up a house, spending time with my husband and having quality time with my daughter was just too much. When things get to be too hard it is inevitable something ends up suffering. In my case, I realized what was suffering was the time and attention I had for my daughter and that is simply unacceptable.
I recently received an offer for a new job at work. I am thrilled about this opportunity, it is exactly what I want to do and it is working on a fantastic team. However, I quickly realized this job is going to take a lot more mental energy than what I am using today at work. If things are barely hanging on now, what is going to happen then?
The logical conclusion was that I need help and I need it fast so I asked my husband what he thought about hiring someone to clean our house once or twice a month. Guess what? He thought it was also a terrific idea!
I have to admit, it was very difficult for me to come to the conclusion that my very best was not good enough and that I could not manage everything on my own. Hiring someone to clean my house always seemed like a concept for the rich. I am actually quite amazed to find that a ton of people who have both spouses working full-time do indeed hire people to help at home. This made me feel so much better and so much less of a failure.
Let’s be real, having someone come in once or twice a month does not take the entire burden of cleaning away and life will still be quite hectic but what it buys me is a “get out of jail free card” when I am freaking out and simply just don’t have the time to mop the kitchen floor or scrub the bathroom tub.
Yes, that is what I am doing, I am buying time with my daughter! I know this might sound crazy, but quite frankly, I have felt crazy lately. If you look at my schedule, the only time I actually have to enjoy anything in life is Saturdays and those have been spent grocery shopping, cleaning and doing a ton of miscellaneous to-do’s.
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Phew, I feel so much better now for admitting it. I needed help so I got it.
No More Guilt
I was not going to publicly speak about paying for help around the house out of fear of judgment from friends who stay at home or have managed to keep it all together. I have since realized, that is silly. I spend 45+ hours a week away from my daughter. I love my daughter, I enjoy my career and I provide a substantial amount of money to my family.
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We should not constantly experience guilt for needing help and thus let my kitchen floors be clean!!